So, first thing which has to be solved is to get the crystal running. Unfortunately I cannot give you that much tips here - does anybody use the same crystal and caps from Mouser?
Many, many times over - both the Vishay xtal and Xicon caps from Mouser. I built a working core from the parts on the list before I released the list, and the Vishay xtal has shipped with around half of all of the core kits I have sold. The others I use (abracon) are just as good, and perform slightly better in extreme high EMI/ interference environments (the only good way to test a crystal,in the shadow of one of USA’s most powerfull AM transmitters!) It’s purely an availability issue that dictates which I use of the two manufacturers…
If you’re thinking that XTAL/caps are causing the trouble, try reflowing solder joints connected caps, crystal and pic pins where crystal is connected.
Absolutely. Reflow not just look. Is there soldering flux around these connections? I have seen flux conduct enough to cause high resistance short and keep the crystal from starting or other unusual behavior.
Remember the caps are really only there to start the xtal oscillating, and don’t really help things after it does.
If these caps are too far different in value either naturally (from their 5% tolerance) or if one has changed drastically due to soldering overheat the xtal won’t act right.
Also if the xtal was overheated during soldering it can act like this, but they usually just die completely instead.
As always, I’ll burn the bootloader for anyone anytime, for free, even if you don’t buy the pic or anything else from me.
Also describe your power supply please, I helped a builder with xtal issues like this that completely went away when he changed power supplies, he was trying to use a switch-mode supply from and old computer, and it apparently had enough AC ripple on the 5V line to mess things up.
BTW: I haven’t forgot about the issue that got you to this point (Mac MIOS upload), I’ll help you get that going after the core is happy. 
Best!
Smash