maybe the fact that there are a few errors when sending the hex with mios studio should bother me ?
Oh yes, of course!
So, the firmware wasn’t working, because it wasn’t completely programmed into the flash.
Random things can happen then. It’s also possible, that the upload errors happened because the firmware image was corrupted before (this explains, why the testtone app upload wasn’t successfull)
Just to highlight it again: random things can happen then - things which are hard to diagnose via remote 
A corrupted firmware upload can be “repaired” the following way: reset the box, and upload the firmware via first level bootloader (so, start the transfer within 2 seconds after power-on)
This should give you a clean upload.
but i cannot get midiox to upload the patches sysex - even with the delay set to 750 ms no data is on the bankstick. i definately sends it but the core seems not to respond to it.
is that possible or is the fact that hex files are going through enough evidence that the connection with my pc is correct?
Not really, because if the application upload wasn’t stable, it could be an issue with your MIDI interface.
What happens when you are doing the hardware-loopback test.
I mean: loopback MIDI Out to MIDI In of your PC, and use MIDI-Ox to send&receive the .syx file
The SysEx tool of MIDI-Ox provides a compare function, which allows you to check the equivalence of the sent and received SysEx dump
If MIDI-Ox prints mismatches, you know that there is something wrong with the MIDI interface/ MIDI driver/ MIDI cable…
Best Regards, Thorsten.